The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals. ~ Melody Beattie
Goals, dreams, plans, revolutions. As soon as we start to even think about making changes, we come up against some pretty strong adversaries. Those adversaries live in our subconscious as patterns, habits, and blocks ~ and boy, do they know how to put on the pressure!
The biggest weapon we have against our old stories and ways of thinking is our “Why.” What is it that made you want to make those changes in the first place?
Grab a journal or notebook and think about the number one change you want to make. What is it that is fueling your desire for things to be different? WHY?Write this at the top of the page. Now, look at what you have written and ask yourself “why” again. Keep asking yourself “why” and continue to go deeper with each answer. Continue this process until you reach an answer that causes a physical reaction in your body. This may be tears, a lump in your throat, or a tug at your heart strings.
Let me demonstrate. Whenever I start working with new clients we have a dialogue that goes something like this:
Me: Why are you coming to see me.
Client: Because I want to be more flexible.
Me: What does your current level of inflexibility prevent you from doing?
Client: I can’t bend over.
Me: If you could bend over, what would you be able to do that you can’t currently?
Client: Tie my shoes.
Me: So you want to be able to tie your shoes.
Me: What other things are you currently unable to do that you want to?
Client: I can’t pick up my grandkids.
Me: So you are coming to see me so that we can increase your flexibility so that you can pick up your grandkids.
Client: Yes. More than anything I want to pick up my grandkids and hold them.
Do you see how my client’s why became much more personal at the end of the conversation than when we first started? This client is much more likely to stick with their yoga practice when the end result is to pick up their grandchildren than it is if they just want to be more flexible.
In order to work through the days that change is hard and you want to crawl back under the safety of the covers and your old habits, your “why” has got to be emotional and meaningful to you. This right here is your weapon to fighting the fear monsters that inevitably will pop up.
The difference between someone having success in their endeavors and those who don’t is that the desire to change must be greater than your desire to be the same.
If you need a little support in making your intentions a reality, I would love to help! Sign up for a complimentary discovery session and I will let you know how I can support you!