You are responsible for how your life responds to you. You create your own reality. And so do I. I used to live in a victim role. I used to think I deserved what did or didn’t happen to me. I used to focus on what was missing in my life rather than the gifts I had.
Life responds to what you focus on. So from here on out, together we are going to say goodbye to language we use in our words as well as our thoughts that reflect lack or self sabotage.
“The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
― Ludwig Wittgenstein
Here’s a started list of words that keep you a victim:
- Should (As in “I really should be doing x.”)
- Try (You either do or you don’t. Trying is telling yourself you won’t succeed.)
- Can’t (There is always a different way to reach an outcome.)
- Just (I notice I use this one when I teach yoga. Telling someone to “just” do something implies it should be easy for them. Because we have all walked in different shoes, it is not fair for me to judge what should be easy for someone else.)
Those are my “Big 4” words that I have chosen to stop using.
I would love to hear any self limiting words you have chosen to stop using in the comments below.